Author: Karen Copeland
I needed this reminder today.
I haven’t always done things the right way. I’ve made poor choices. I’ve hurt people with my words and actions. I’ve judged. I’ve carried (and earned) the label “THAT parent”. I’ve discouraged others. I haven’t shown kindness when I should have. I’ve yelled and glared and crossed my arms. I’ve refused to listen. I’ve been consumed by negativity.
Yes, I have done all of these things. Sometimes I still do. I reflect on those times and see how my behavior was/is influenced by FEAR. WORRY. FEELING HELPLESS. FEELING HOPELESS.
Those who were on the receiving end of this might never be able to see beyond this. They might choose to only remember what they saw on the surface. But there is so much more to who I am. And while they may not be open to it, here is what I would like them to know.
I’ve taken the time to learn how to approach situations in a better way. I’ve reflected on my choices and made a commitment to do better. I’ve apologized. I’ve forgiven. I’ve become more curious. I’ve taken the steps to connect with others to learn their stories. I’ve reflected on the label “THAT”, owned my role in it and used it as a catalyst to create change. I’ve become a light for others who need it. I’ve opened my mind. I’ve made a conscious decision to look for strengths and acknowledge the positives. I’ve embraced my creativity with design to generate resources intended to help others connect with each other in positive ways.
Where I once only saw weakness, I now see strengths I didn’t know existed. I choose to not give up, but continue on. I will persevere.
I am not perfect. I am human.
I am not weak or broken.
I am resilient and strong.
I believe I can make a difference … so I am.